Being Selfish With Happiness

To make someone happy is a great feeling. A world full of happy people is definitely a better world to live in. Before we can create this happiness for others I do feel we need to sort ourselves out first.

Here's an analogy for you. When you travel and take a flight somewhere you're given the safety talk at the beginning. One of the things mentioned is the possible reduction of cabin pressure and those little masks will fall down from the ceiling. Being the perfect gentlemen that I am, my first reaction would be to get the mask on to the person sat next to me but, in the safety speech they tell you to don yours first before helping others. This is because you could become a casualty yourself while trying to help others. You're better prepared to help others if your own situation is more stable.   

I know it's not the best example to give you but I'm sure you get the idea.

Before I departed for my motor bike journey around the world I wasn't too happy. I had little pick me ups now and then but overall the happiness level was pretty low. I tried helping others with their problems and felt like I was failing all the time and couldn't work out why. Being a good person isn't enough to make someone happy. You have to be happy in yourself to know how to spread it on.

The motorbike trip was a purely selfish endeavor. It had to be done and I needed to get back to the person I was and so desperately wanted to be. Looking in the mirror and telling yourself to smile and be happy just isn't going to cut it i'm afraid. You need to get out there and go find it, and you're the only person for the job. Do things to please you, get comfortable in your own skin and throw yourself into new scenarios. 

Eventually as my journey unfolded I became more at peace, I still had some bad days for sure but overall I was healing and re-learning so much about myself and the world around me that I had forgotten. I didn't care as much to what people thought about my ideas and what I stood for, you're never going to please everyone, so start by pleasing yourself and your tribe will grow naturally around you.

Not a day goes past when I don't think about travel. I think of cool ideas for future trips or potential job opportunities abroad and I'm now converting a van into a mobile home. There's always that person somewhere nearby with the opinion about everything waiting to burst your bubble.  Switch these people off, they're no good for you and keep them away. I don't care what these people think and the reason for not caring is because I am happy with these decisions I have made. 

All this has brought me a great deal of experience. Helping those around me has become an easier and more comfortable process. I'm not just helping someone because they may be a friend, I'm helping because I want to and I'm better equipped for the job now. I believe in my actions for creating happiness around me and others. Once you've unlocked this skill it really does feel good. So go find your tribe and start creating and sharing with those around you.



End Notes

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